What Is It About Watching Someone Else’s Success?Why Their Win Feels Like It’s Ours Too
There is something powerful about watching someone else succeed. It shows up in familiar moments. A student walking across a stage to receive a diploma. A teammate is celebrating after months of effort. A friend reached a goal they once doubted they could achieve. Even when we are not directly involved, these moments often stir […]
The Weight of Being the Strong One
Every family has one. Every friend group does too. The steady one. The reliable one. The one who doesn’t fall apart when things get hard. The one people call when something goes wrong. If you are that person, you probably did not apply for the job; it simply happened. Over time, you became the calm […]
The Two Forces That Control Your Life (And How to Take Your Power Back)
There are two forces that drive all human behavior.Two invisible forces directing nearly every decision you make, every habit you keep, and every action you take. If you learn to control them, you can become the person you have always wanted to be. These powerful forces are pain and pleasure. Every choice we make is […]
The Power of Keeping Your Word
There are people in every community who rarely draw attention to themselves. They do not make loud declarations. They do not advertise their reliability. But when they say they will do something, it gets done. When they promise to show up, they are there. When they commit, they follow through. That quiet consistency carries more […]
We Could All Use a Little Change
I’m a grumpy old man. If you don’t believe me, just take a look at the picture of me that usually accompanies my column–a grumpy old man yelling at his phone. One thing that makes old men grumpy is that they get set in their ways. Grumpy old men don’t like things to change. The […]
Don’t Tell Me About Your Idea. Show Me What You Built.
Ideas are everywhere. You hear them in coffee shops, late night conversations, group texts, and brainstorming sessions. Someone leans forward and says they have a great idea. A business idea. A book idea. An app idea. A project that will change things. For a moment, everyone gets excited. The conversation builds energy. Possibilities start to […]
Beyond Hakuna Matata: Why You Need “Tika Buzoba” in Your Life
Viktor Frankl said, “It is a peculiarity of man that he can only live by looking to the future.” Perhaps that is why we make plans, set goals, and dream our dreams. You can increase your progress in the pursuit of your plans, goals or dreams by using one important principle. Allow me to share […]
Teaching Your Kids the Importance of Overcoming Failure Like Henry Ford
“This is too hard! I can’t do it!” “Nobody likes me. I have no friends.” “I’m the worst at [art/soccer/math]!” “I know I won’t be good at that, so I’m not even going to try.” “I’m going to fail my [math/science/history/English] test.” As a parent, you’ve probably heard at least one of the above self-defeating […]
The Power of Your Inner Circle
Spring is here. You can feel it in the air. Longer days. A little more warmth. A sense that something new is possible again. And if you think about it, that’s exactly what hope does. Hope is the belief that tomorrow can be better than today. Encouragement is the fuel that helps us move toward […]
Life’s Giants: The Hidden Cost of Facing Them Alone
We all have giants. Some are obvious: Financial pressure, health concerns, business uncertainty. Others are quieter: Tension at home. A drifting relationship. A teenager who won’t talk. The quiet sense that you’re capable of more but unsure how to move forward. The giants themselves aren’t new. What is often overlooked is the hidden cost of […]